Joanna Anastasia

happiness

20 habits of happy people

What do happy people do differently and how you too can live a better life

Some people are born happy, face life with uncrushed optimism and whatever comes their way, stay strong and positive. These are the ones with amazing brain chemistry that keeps their thoughts and energy high, and other people jealous.

But for many others, happiness can be a struggle, a constant battle with the brain and the way they were raised: to expect the worst, to look out for danger or not to feel too good about themselves.

However, happiness can become a daily practice: a way of thinking and a life philosophy.

Here are 20 habits of happy people, what they do daily, how they think, and what you too can do in order to feel happier in your everyday!

  1. Practice gratefulness daily. Appreciate people around you, what they do for you, what you have and all the little things. Don’t take things for granted.
  2. Don’t compare your journey with other people’s one. We all have our struggles, and the fact that you don’t see someones pain, doesn’t mean they don’t struggle too.
  3. Find something good in every day. Because while not every day may be good, there is something good in everyday.
  4. Look at struggles and problems as challenges to overcome, rather than unchangeable and crushing life events.
  5. Ask for help and accept it.
  6. Express your emotions! Be sad, just don’t over pity your self, be angry but then move on, admit to your fears, but don’t ket them control you.
  7. Don’t pretend to be perfect and have it all together. Nobody does.
  8. Admit to your mistakes. Learn from them.
  9. Try to learn something new often.
  10. Learn to let go. Sometimes it’s the people and relationships who hurt you too much, sometimes it’s the projects and plans that are just not coming together. Knowing when to stop and leave is as important as following through.
  11. Forgive people. Don’t carry around hatred. It will only hurt you in the long run, and not the person that did hurt you in the first place.
  12. Take time off regularly to recharge. Go on vacation, or a mini break, and  unplug.
  13. Give yourself the right to dream, put your fears aside and think about what you really want to do with your life.
  14. Turn your dreams to goals, and goals in to plans.
  15. Don’t expect perfection.
  16. Nurture relationships with people – spend time with people who are important, and give them your attention.
  17. Don’t expect other people to make you happy. Only you can make yourself happy.
  18. Try to look at things in a 5-10-20 years perspective – always ask yourself a question: will this struggle, problem, or results of this decision, be important in 5-10-20 years?
  19. Start and end the day with a calm ritual – a coffee, a book, or a hug.
  20. Assume you’ll be failing sometimes – just always find a way to get back up.

Of course, not all of this is easy. I myself had to work hard to forgive and to let go. Sticking to a calm ritual with kids around is a challenge on it’s own, and unplugging for a blogger is nothing short of a miracle. But nevertheless, I do try to practice all of these in my daily life, and since I do, I truly feel happier and calmer. Which is what I wish for you too!

And to help you put these points in practice, I’ve prepared this infographic with the most important points, that you can print and keep in your sight!

20 habits of happy people - how they think, act and live, and what you too can do to live a happier life - more on the blog!

 

What no one tells you about beauty

What no one tells you about beauty

There are many lies associated to the concept of beauty. We are being told that beauty equals happiness and love. We are being told that there is only one way to be loved and happy, and that is by being pretty. Actually pretty doesn’t cut it any more, we should be perfect.

Of course nobody is born perfect, so ( how luckily for us ) there are hundred of products that can help us reach our goal ! Oh wait, I forgot, our goal of beauty is unreachable, because it’s photoshopped and fake, but we can still spent our energy on trying as hard as possible , can we ? And if it won’t work, and if by comparing ourselves with hundreds of perfect body images that we see every day, we’ll get depressed, then there are other products that we can buy to help us feel better!

We are being lied to. The mass media are repeating the same lie over and over again :you need to be beautiful in order to be loved and happy. You need to be skinny, tall, young, and flawless in order to be beautiful. And if you’re not, then you failed. Nobody will care about you, love you nor hire you.

We are being told that by buying all these products, we will attaint the beauty ideal. The ideal that is unattainable. The ideal that is photoshopped and starved. The ideal that changes every couple of years. And every couple of years there are new products to correct our flaws. Fat. Cellulite. Wrinkles. Stretch marks. Freckles. And so on.

But there is a bright side to it: the economy. Girls, you substain it, bravo! If it wouldn’t be for your insecurities, for your fear of not being good enough and loveable, then the beauty industry would be ruined! If it wouldn’t be to women who believe in this vicious and cruel lie, than what would happen to so many hard working people in the beauty and fashion industry?

But I had enough. I don’t believe in it anymore. And I don’t care what will happen to the beauty and the fashion industry. Who knows, maybe if we would all stop believing , they would change too?

Because it’s not true that the only way to live a happy life is by being beautiful. The key to a happy life is being a part of a community, is being creative and being a part of something that helps others ( and there are researches that proved it). Happiness has nothing to do with size or age.

And it’s not true that there is only one way of being beautiful. If there would be, than we would all look the same, because in our evolutionary past only the prettiest ( and strongest) of people reproduced. But somehow we are all different. Somehow the researchers show that what both sexes find is attractive enough to reproduce, is totally different from what the media are trying to sell us.

It’s not true that by buying all these creams and serums we can stop time and be young for ever and always. Because we can’t.

It’s not true that by buying and consuming we can attaint the beauty ideals. Because we can’t. They are unattainable. And even if you try hard, and you spent all your energy and money on it, you’ll fail eventually. Because everyone gets old. And that’s a fail, according to beauty standards.

Oh. And there is one more thing. Even if for a couple of years of your life you’ll manage to be as close as possible to the beauty ideal, than you’ll still fail. Because you won’t be able to stay that way all your life. You’ll probably end up anxious about loosing your “perfect body”. You’ll worry about people loving you, wandering if you should try harder, become slimmer fitter and sexier, in order to be finally loved and accepted. You’ll waist your life. But you won’t be perfect. Because that is impossible.

Stop believing this lie. Accept yourself. Embrace yourself..

And if you’d like to learn more about how the standards of beauty are affecting our culture here is a must-read : The Beauty Myth !

What no one tells you about beauty