Joanna Anastasia

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What to do when your child has nightmares

what to do when your child starts having nightmares, how to help him sleep better, and how to organize the bedroom so it'll be calming and relaxing!

We all know that real happiness for a parent, is nothing more than a child that falls easily asleep, and stays a sleep all night! And so once the baby phase have passed, I thought that the sleep issues are over. But my both daughters have very vivid imagination, which is amazing during their play time, as they can amuse themselves for hours! But when it’s bedtime, and they can’t fall asleep because they’re scared of nightmares, or they wake up in tears, than it’s rather heartbreaking.

That’s why I’ve been trying for months to find a perfect solution to this problem, and here’s what I came up with:

1. Bedtime routine that involves talking about their day

Small kids need routine to feel secure, and even more so, kids who tend to have nightmares. So make sure your child goes to sleep at the same time every night, and that they follow at least two steps of routine before falling asleep ( like bath, then potty, then story time and cuddle, or potty, washing teeth with mom, story and cuddle) Make sure your child knows what are the steps, and what will happen next.

After you finished their bedtime routine, and once your kid is ready to fall asleep, talk about their day. Ask them what they liked the most and what they liked the least. And if there was something that surprised them or scared.

That’s the opportunity for them to talk about any scary and surprising events of the day. And talking about anything that provoked strong emotions, will help your child deal with it better, and therefore avoid nightmares!

what to do when your child has nightmares

what to do when your child has nightmares

what to do when your child has nightmares

what to do when your child has nightmares

3. Introduce magical objects.

Young kids under six/seven years of age, don’t think with the same logic as adults, which is called magical thinking. (And thanks to that, they can feel reassured with mommy kisses when they’re hurt!)

And that’s why I got a white plush unicorn for my daughters room, and introduced it as a Night Guardian of Dreams! Lili and Rose love it and are convinced now that bad dreams can’t get to them anymore because of Clara, the Night Guardian (yes the unicorn real name is Clara).

I got it from Brooklyns Room, a Canadian based kids accessory boutique ( where you can choose among other animals like flamingos and lions) It hangs upon my daughters beds, and it’s as soft and fluffy as at can get, while being calming and reassuring in their eyes! Honestly it’s one of the best decorating decisions I made to date!

Also, when I ask them with which little animal they wan’t to be sleeping and dreaming sweet dreams, there seem to be some that have more “magical powers” then others. So for example, lately the most magical of all is this little tooth pillow, and they are both taking turns for sleeping with it!

what to do when your child has nightmares

what to do when your child has nightmares

4. Reassure.

Let them know that even if they would end up having a nightmare, they are not alone, and that they are safe. Tell them that they can always come and cuddle you (or call you), and promise to lave that small light on. Tell them it happens to you too, and tell them how you deal with it. ( Do you get up to drink water, do you turn around and cuddle?). Let them know it’s normal and that it will pass.

So know, before falling asleep Lili will always point on the Clara the unicorn and reassure Rose that it will protect them! And while I’m always there for them, I’m happy to see that they feel safer and that they sleep better too.

what to do when your child has nightmares

Disclosure: This article was brought to you by Brooklyns Room, all opinions remain my own!

How to help babies sleep better

How to help babies sleep: what to do when you're exhausted and you need help with your baby ( or even a toddler) not sleeping well!

If I’d have to describe my first couple of months as a mother in only one word, it would be exhaustion. Yes there was love, and there was amazement and pride and joy, but mainly exhaustion. Nobody really knew, except my husband, how bad it was. That for the first four months of our parenting journey, I never slept more than two hours at a time. That I cried in the middle of the night, rocking my baby to sleep, and going crazy.

And if you know me, then you know that I hate the notion of sleep training. That every time when a nurse proposed to me the method consisting of not attending my baby’s cry for 5 up to 15 minutes, I would get really angry. Because during my psychology studies, nobody ever told me that you should leave babies needs unattended, nor that you should let then cry alone in their crib. So for me, sleep training was not an option.

Then we had our second daughter, almost two years ago. Her sleeping pattern was completely different, with sleepless nights starting around the age of 6 months and persisting for over a year.

So when Kimberly from the Baby Sleep Site approached me and asked if I’d like to see what their members area has to offer, I was very curious yet suspicious. I wasn’t sure what to expect, and I was scared to see the cry-it-out approach as a main method. But guess what? I got smitten!

I started going through the members area, and I got really amazed how full of resources it is! If only I had that when I was a new mom! If only I got this membership as a baby shower gift ( instead of all of the tiny socks that got all lost and mismatched)! How much easier early motherhood would have been!

Help baby sleep better

Then I started reading about toddler sleep, because quite frankly, sleepless nights are not totally over for me. With my 24-month old Rose, we do get them every week or so. And it hit me, how simple the answers can be.

But getting back to the babies sleep. There are some things that I did learn over time. But how much easier it would have been if I had a resource like that at my fingertips. Do you know that your babies schedule does matter, and that even while practicing attachment parenting, you can make your babies routine work for your both babies and your sleep? That even if you nurse, and rock your baby before sleeping, you can still help your baby to sleep better, by planning more the day, meals and/or nursing sessions, nap times and bed routine?

How to help babies sleep better

There’s so much in to it, and baby’s sleep is really more complex then I thought. And I know it’s hard to get the answers when you’re exhausted because you didn’t get a half night sleep (not to mention a full night sleep) in months, or even years.

That’s why I’m so impressed by the members area: tons of articles, for different stages, from a new-born to a preschooler. Tons of recourses to help you with different sleep problems. Ebooks assessing the biggest sleeping issues. Personalized schedules for babies and toddlers (because yes, routine is a parent secret weapon, and yet it’s so hard to have one that works well for mom’s needs and child’s sleep needs!) And, the cherry on the top, there’s always an option of having a live chat with a sleep specialist!

Help baby sleep better

So while I was reading an e-book assessing my current situation, toddler sleep problems, I couldn’t stop thinking about how I wished I have know about this site before! And while I’ll be educating myself more about my toddlers sleep, I really encourage you to go and have a look of what the Baby Sleep site has to offer!

Disclosure : I reviewed this product for a compensation, all opinions are 100% my own !