Joanna Anastasia

raising girls

Why your kids will love Cars 3

why your kids will love the new Cars 3

I always wanted to raise girls who are equally girly and tomboyish, girls who’d love Princess as much as they’d love Cars. Girls who are strong, courageous and who would never believe that girls don’t do certain things. And I really think that it’s all about what we encourage our kids to play with and what books and stories we expose them to. So you can imagine my excitement when we got invited to see the new Disney Pixar Cars 3 premiere, since this is exactly the type of story that empowers all kids to believe in themselves and in their dreams!

Before we got to see the movie premiere we visited our local Canadian Tire to see the real Lightning McQueen on his road trip across Canada! Now that really got my girls all excited for the movie! There was the life-size Lightning McQueen to make photos with, crafts we got to take home with us and little racing cars to play with.

why your kids will love the new Cars 3

why your kids will love the new Cars 3

why your kids will love the new Cars 3

You can still catch him in Halifax, or just go and visit your local Canadian Tire store and get something for your little fan! There is everything you can imagine, from toys to bikes and water fun, everything featuring the Lightning McQueen and his friends! I was so impressed by the choice they had! And of course my girls wanted it all!

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And so when we got to see the movie premiere Lili and Rose just couldn’t contain their excitement! They loved the movie and laughed a ton. And I was really happy to see strong feminine characters that my daughters could relate with! Because if they can see feminine characters doing tough and amazing things, they can imagine and dream doing them too one day!

And then first thing in the morning, with their pjs still on, Lili decided to draw for Rose Lightning McQueen and his friend Cruz Ramirez. And they didn’t stop talking about the movie ever since!

why your kids will love the new Cars 3

This post was brought to you by Canadian Tire, all opinions remain my own.

Clothes that little girls like

Clothes that girls like

Little girls want to move and dance and run, and they need to feel comfortable in their clothes! And the little girls that I know, they also love colours and little animals, sweet and fun patterns and of course, their favourite characters on their clothes. Believe me, I tried dressing my daughters in trendy grey, black and white clothes, but truth to be told, my older one, she loves colour. And my younger one, well all she wants, is to copy her sister!

So I was beyond exited when I got to visit the all new Giant Tiger Store in Saint-Jean-sur-Richelieu, and found such a great kid section, with only soft cotton, lots of sweet dresses and lots of Peppa Pig prints! It’s a brand new store, and I was so surprised to see such a vast choice in all the departments!

Now, of course I had to stop by the decor section, and I found lot’s of choices for decorating your outdoor space too – and got myself the prettiest outdoor rug ever!  Stay tuned, as I’ll share it on my Instagram once the weather will cooperate!

And of course, I used this occasion to do small grocery shopping too, as they have really everything that you need.

So now Lili want’s to only wear clothes with Peppa Pig on them and these super soft leggings, and I’m wearing my jeans dress from Lily Morgan on repeat, because it’s so comfy and diverse!

clothes that girls like

clothes that girls like
Les petites filles veulent bouger, danser, courir et ont besoin d’être confortable dans leurs vêtements. Et les petites filles que je connais, eh bien elles aiment les couleurs, les petits animaux, les jolis motifs amusants et bien sûr leurs personnages de télévision préférés. Croyez-moi, j’ai essayé d’habiller mes filles en vêtements tendance gris, noir ou blancs, mais sérieusement, ma plus vieille adore les couleurs. Et la plus jeune, eh bien elle veut toujours faire comme sa sœur!

Alors j’étais plus qu’excitée d’être invitée au nouveau Tigre Géant de St-Jean-sur-Richelieu, et j’y ai trouvé une superbe section pour enfant. Il y avait de jolie robes entièrement faites de coton et beaucoup de Peppa Pig! C’est un tout nouveau magasin et j’ai été très surprise de voir autant de choix dans tous les départements!

Évidemment, je ne pouvais pas passer à côté de la section décoration. J’y ai trouvé un tas de choix pour décorer vos espaces extérieurs – et je me suis choisi le plus joli tapis extérieur. (Restez à l’affut, il sera bientôt sur Instagram si la température coopère!)

Et bien sûr, j’ai profité de l’occasion pour faire mon épicerie puisqu’on y trouve tout ce qu’il faut pour ça aussi.

Depuis ce jour, Lili veut seulement porter ses vêtements Peppa Pig et ces leggings. Et moi, je porte ma robe de jeans à répétition parce que c’est tellement confortable et facile à agencer.

clothes that girls like

clothes that girls like

Though my biggest joy was shopping for little girls outfits ( I even started wishing I had another baby, as their baby selection is the cutest ever!) and founding so many things that my Lili will actually like- for such good prices.

Malgré tout, mon plus grand plaisir a définitivement été de magasiner des tenues pour petites filles (j’ai même souhaité avoir un autre nouveau-né tellement la sélection de vêtements pour bébé est cute!). Je suis vraiment contente d’avoir trouvé autant de choses que ma Lili va réellement aimer porter à un si bon prix.

clothes that girls like

Clothes that girls like

Disclosure: This post is brought to you by Giant Tiger, all opinions remain my own.

Ce post est fait en collaboration avec Tigre Géant, toutes les opinions sont exclusivement les miennes.

10 tips to raise self-driven girls

10 tips to raise self driven girls, girls who'll know what they want and how to get it.. while staying kind and open minded. Parenting tips and ideas for every girl mom (or dad)

Recently I’ve met this self-driven, beautiful and successful women, a real girl boss, and while talking to her, she said lowering her voice that she is a feminist. And then she looked around to see if anyone listened. I just smiled and said that she doesn’t need to worry about words around me, because I consider myself as a feminist, and I hope to raise my girls to be feminists too. And I realized, that even if a boss lady from a big city is afraid to use this world, then there’s still so much work to be done.

What does it mean to be or not a feminist, is still a huge discussion. Lots of educated self-driven woman will say they’re not, they’re just strong and believe in right for education and equal pay. Many stay at home mom’s that I know will openly say that they are feminists. Many feminists will say that a woman who doesn’t work isn’t really a feminist, and many SAHM’s will see feminists as arrogant and self centered people.

Recently Emma Watson, a young, self-driven actress and a voice of modern feminism, was criticized for doing a photo shoot that showed her breasts a bit more then she usually does. And she was accused of not being a feminist.. by feminists.. And it just showed how much misconceptions there are out there.

But in the end, aren’t all self-driven women who believe in freedom of choice feminists? Be it engineer, a stay-at-home-mom, or both . If all of them believe girls should have access to education and health services, then I think they are all feminist. So why be scared of this word?

People have these ideas about what a women should be, how should she act and look. And as a mom of two girls, who’ll become woman all too soon, I want them to know that in these discussions, what’s really important is the attitude, that freedom that you give yourself and others. Not an etiquette.

I hope to raise girls who won’t have these misconceptions about other women. About how a woman should look, act and talk in order to be seen as a good / intelligent / feminine / good mother / well raised / feminist enough / liberated / modest enough etc. Who won’t really care about all these etiquette’s and labels. Who won’t listen to others saying what they can and can’t do, but who’ll listen to their own inner voice. I hope to be raising self-driven girls.

I hope they’ll only follow a social code for being kind and open minded people. That they’ll decide for themselves how they should live their life. That they won’t be afraid of a word feminism. Nor strength nor motherhood nor femininity. I hope they’ll grow in to women who won’t judge other woman for being too much: too loud, too opinionated, too timid, too modest, too sexy, too carrier driven, too mommy-like. That they won’t say other woman are not enough: not enough of a feminist, not enough of a mother, not enough of a lady, not enough of a professional. Women who won’t put a tag on other women. Nor on themselves.

raising self-driven girls

So how do I make sure that my daughters will grow in to self driven, non-judgmental kind and open women? Well, of course time will only show if I succeeded, but for now, here’s what I do:

  1. I want them to choose for themselves. Be it putting their food on their plate, choosing their clothes, or crafts ideas, as long as it makes sense and isn’t in conflict with their safety or health, I want them to learn to take their own decisions. Girls who make their own decisions from young age are less likely to believe that that they need to fit in the stereotype in order to have friends or be beach ready. They are also more likely to choose a carer path ( or a motherhood route) in tune with their true feelings and dreams.
  2. I encourage them to (politely) argument why they want or don’t wan’t something. I think that often we tend to teach girls to be polite first and to say what they wan’t second, while we teach boys to stand for themselves first and be polite second. Well I think that kids need both, and that girls need more then ever to stand for themselves and say what they want. Because if ever they choose to be a working professional, nobody will give them a raise just because they waited politely for it to happen.
  3. I try to teach them the difference between an opinion and a judgment. Which means it’s fine to say at home what they like and dislike, but it’s not fine to say that other’s likes and dislikes are stupid or silly. ( Let’s say that this one is a starting point to many sisterly disputes around the table, and that we’are still working on it!).
  4. I try to talk to them about people around us, and their life choices in a way that they can see the ocean of possibilities rather then good and bad paths to follow. I have friends who are working full time and raising kids, I have friends who are full time stay at home moms, I have friends who don’t have kids, and who travel and live alone. Some are vegetarian and some dress in a different way. Some have tattoos and some are a part of a bible study. When we talk about other people I try to always let them know that all choices are good, as long as they come from the heart.
  5. I try to explain to them how everyone has their own perspective, and how we should always think abut how things look from a different point of view. Books and movies are always a great starting point. Imaginative play is another. I’d ask them how would you feel now if you where ( insert : your sister, or cat, your grandma, me, etc..) this exercise may be too difficult for a toddler, but my five year old got pretty good in it.
  6. Get dad involved. Girls who see men tackling house duties are more likely to believe that anyone can do anything.
  7. I let my girls help around, both in the kitchen as with tools ( as much as they can in their age). I hope they’ll be able to see which type of work they prefer ( and if both, then good for them!)
  8. I talk to them about publicity in the media and social stereotypes ( still very present in mainstream TV), even if they are really young. I’d say: look, this is someone who’s trying to sell us something ( and then we’d guess what is it). This isn’t real life. This may not be as good of a product as they say. I want them to be very judgmental when it comes to publicity, as this is where a lot of social messages are hidden, especially regarding how women should look and dress.
  9.  Whatever you do, tell your story to your kids, let them know why you choose to stay at home with them or work, or do both. Read them stories of other women and their different life choices. ( Great book that I’m recently in love in, is: “Bedtime stories for rebel girls” , not that rebellious after all, but very touching with 100 stories of women throughout the history, following their path and their dreams often against all the odds).
  10. And above all, I try to acknowledge their emotions, because I believe that only by letting them express their feelings, and experience kindness and compaction, they’ll learn how to be kind and compassionate themselves. (Within healthy boundaries and limits off-course!).

So for me raising self-driven girls, means raising girls who are kind and strong, sure of what they want and not afraid of social tags. Girls who don’t look at people from above, and who don’t care about stereotypes. Girls who follow their dreams. And who encourage others. Who are feminists. Now, wish me luck in making that happen!

 

 

What I want my daughter to learn about beauty

What I want my daughter to learn about beauty

Before my daughter will go to school and learn that pretty kids are considered better kids, and before she’ll join the Disney princesses fans team, I want her to learn that beauty is not the skinny and wide-eyed ideal. That beauty can come in different shapes and colours. And that what’s really beautiful is the inside not the outside.

I want to teach her that she is much more than a pretty face. That when people say that she’s pretty, it’s because they try to be nice, since they don’t know how funny/ smart/ creative she is.

I hope that when my daughter will be be growing up, she won’t let how she looks or how other people think that she looks, affect her feeling and what she can or can’t be doing.

I hope that she’ll learn that there is so many more things to do and see in life, then just staring in the mirror and looking for flaws or perfection.

I hope that she’ll like being feminine but that she won’t feel like she has to be feminine all the time, to please others.

I hope for her to live intense live experiences in which she can forget the time passing by, and people around her. The kind of experiences in which she won’t care for how she looks. And that the memory of these moments will help her go through the times where she might feel people judging her looks.

And when my daughter will grow, I want to teach her that it’s ok to feel and look sexy, but that it’s not necessary to be like this all the time.

And that how you look should please you, not others. That people who love you, and care for you, look much deeper in you, and will like what they see because they like you in the first place.

I hope to teach her that chasing the beauty ideals is a waste of time and money. That this isn’t the path for happiness.

I want her to know that happiness comes from healthy relationships, creativity and helping others. And that exploring, learning and understanding is so much more important than just being pretty.

That real relationships are so much more important and rewarding then the lust that men may feel for the perfect body.

That they don’t need to be perfect in order to be happy.

I hope that I can set the good example.